Signs your inner critic is taking over

You constantly compare yourself 

We’ve all done it and, to be fair, it is human, however the thing is no-one is perfect, so no matter what the outside packaging or the social media posts look like, it in no way mirrors what may truly be going on inside, however you could be making up your own version nonetheless. 

So, what shall we do about this… Let’s reverse a bit and find the triggers that make you start feeling terrible about yourself and start making some changes, so if hanging out with a particular group doesn’t leave you feeling the best or following certain people on Instagram. We know we compare ourselves however if you base yourself on this, it’s a problem 

You have big ideas, but have done nothing to get there. 

It doesn’t matter what this great idea is or how long this has super dream has been going around your head, if you haven’t done anything about it. Which leads me to ask why this idea is just sitting there in the corner. Is it to do with the little big voice telling you basically you can’t do it.

So, what shall we do about this…

Make a list of all the things this little big voice says about your idea. Against each statement, write the exact positive thought.

E.g. You’re too old to do that…now becomes, it’s NEVER too late. I know in my heart it’s possible. Know this, it’s your idea, your future dream and no one, especially your own big little voice, should be judging you.

You only feel good from others

Sure we all love being validated for what we do, however if your worth is based on other people constantly building you up, you are then setting yourself for a fall. Your big little voice will find that open door with a cosy welcome mat underneath. 

So, what shall we do about this… write things you like about yourself. At least 50. Then things you’re going to be great at. This time at least 60. Seems a big ask, but listen you need it. You are in charge of your self worth and self esteem. Self worth is what you feel about yourself, which in turn fuels your self esteem when you feel good, you develop more confidence and this leads to more self esteem. It’s an ever growing circle.